Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4:8 (NIV)
Love hurts! Point blank. Because God loves us, He desires our conformity to the life of Christ more than our comfort. Allowing troubles, trials and pain is one way He loves us. I know many people love God based on His acts. We tend to love him as long as He is the genie in the bottle. When it’s time for life lessons we get mad at Him, won’t talk to Him, and have the nerve to even curse at Him. Being a parent, I’ve unfortunately suffered those blows. Just recently I was so overwhelmed with this parenting thing, I did just like one of my kids did when they were a teen – I ran away from home! When I confessed this to my church mother, she said she got a good laugh out of it. Imagine a 50+ year old woman running away from home! Well I didn’t just do it once, I did it several times this year. I didn’t want the responsibilities. I felt taken advantage of and I was over it! Why is it the ones closest to you can bring you the most pain? I asked God how does He have so many kids with so many personalities and quirks and He still manages to Love us all! How are you so dog on long suffering?! I’ve always said that parenting is far more challenging than marriage. Now, both have their triumphs and woes and most days I won’t trade them for anything in the world but as of late I just feel like running away every other day! Honey let me tell you: I left the house at 6am and returned at 6pm. I ate what I wanted to eat. I took a pillow in the car and slept outside of our beautiful Hilton Hotel (imagining I had a room inside). Woke up and went to eat again, read a book, and sat at one of our beautiful local parks. Oh, it was the best day ever! Once I had all the “me” time I needed and nowhere else to go, I decided to take my happy hips back to these people I love! They hurt me, sometimes unintentionally, but they are mine! The ones God matched me up with. So, when someone says that love should not hurt, I’m here to tell you it most certainly does! We can grow and learn from it, though. I just love that God’s word continually screams truth. Recently I had a conversation with my BFF, and I asked her why didn’t people just think simple like me, the world would be so simplistic and a lot less complicated. Her response annoyed me, but it was so true. She said you’re exclusive just like everyone else. God made me a simple thinker and He made some deep thinkers. Neither are wrong and we should offer grace to one another. Yep, it takes a butt load of energy on both sides but at the end of the day we have to show grace to those who are so different from us. It takes a whole lot of patience and energy to endure these differences. I laugh so often when my husband, who has been so patient with me over the years, holds his head in disbelief because we’re just so different. You can’t be more opposite than we are, but we fit. It’s the weirdest most complicated thing that God would join two opposites together. We love each other dearly and we tend to hurt one another’s feelings, but we still make it work. WHY??? Because love covers.
God, help us to give each other the benefit of grace. Help us to choose relationship over offense and hurts. Help us to be quick to forgive others as you are quick to forgive us. In Jesus name, Amen