Our life class at my church is always good! My husband mentioned something that took me back to college days when I was a member of a denominational church. This particular person disguised their remarks as helpful suggestions. They claimed to be speaking out of love, but most of their words would hurt and discourage. I bring this up because I feel that hurtful speech has become all too common and especially in the church.
Social media has provided people with an easy way to speak while avoiding accountability and to lash out their disdain and some “christians” have taken the opportunity to post bitter messages. I’m reminded of a time when we experienced a disgruntled member who believed a lay members rant over something and falsely accused us. They took their anger to social media and blasted the ministry and later came to apologize once they realized the truth.
People will tear you down and invite others to do the same thing.
I spoke with my oldest sister this week and told her that I was about to be in an uncomfortable environment and she offered something uncomfortably valuable. To summarize what she said-Take the time to get to know the people that tear you down. Get inside their lives, thoughts and emotions. Then pray as specifically as you can about their situation. Reach out to them and help them if you can. This doesn’t mean that you have to be BFF’s with them but kill them with love!
The Bible is overflowing with verses telling us how the only way to know God is by loving others, even our enemies.
The wonderful, beautiful, message of the gospel is that God loves us and asks us to love in return. There is no room in the body of Christ for a cruel tongue, so guard your words, search your thoughts, and the truth really will be spoken with love.