How is it possible to be all Christmassy when your heart is hurting? How do you comfort a friend or family member when their loss is so enormous and all you have to offer is prayer and empathy? Is that even enough? Are words enough? I currently bear the burdens of many who are suffering; I grieve alongside those who have suffered so much loss this year: relationally, spiritually, financially, and physically. If my heart aches this much just by walking alongside those who are hurting, I wonder how I would ever keep it together if I found myself in their shoes.
I can recall talking to my closest friend after my husband’s first love, his mother, transitioned to Heaven. She mentioned that the first milestones will be painful reminders of what once was. When I can’t hug a person’s heart and heal the longing they have to be with their loved ones, I search for scripture to offer comfort. Jesus bore the burden of our pain and understands it firsthand (Hebrews 4:15). I hurt because my husband hurts. He has suffered so much loss and to watch someone grieve is devastating because there’s nothing you can really do to lighten the load.
I want to encourage all of us to have the conversation with God and cast our cares and hurt on Him. Whatever has shaken your world, whatever loss you’ve experienced, give it to Jesus. He will take our burdens and exchange them for His hope and a renewed perspective.
When the holidays are hard, remember this: what we focus on we magnify. Let’s not focus on what we have lost, instead focus on what’s left. There are new memories to make and embrace as you continue your journey through life. Many things may change, and familiar things may fade, but God remains the same (Hebrews 13:8). His faithful love prevails and as he draws close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18) we can rest knowing we are safe in His arms.